Thursday, February 10, 2022

you can't be -- everything to everyone

Last week I had to discharge a patient. It doesn't happen often, and it's not a decision I make lightly, but I have become more protective of my time and energy stores since having Ainsley. As the week went by, the thought popped in my head:

"You can't be everything to everyone."

I thought about the many roles I play in my life:
  • Mom
  • Wife
  • Dog mom
  • Prosthetist-orthotist
  • Daughter
  • Daughter-in-law
  • Sister
  • Sister-in-law
  • Friend
  • Granddaughter
  • Cousin
  • Aunt
  • Niece
  • Great niece
  • Coach
  • Volunteer chapter captain
  • Employee
  • Coworker
  • Mentor
  • Instructor
  • Neighbor
  • Teammate
That's 22 roles, and I'm sure I forgot some.

There's some roles were I am that person to only 1: mom to 1, wife to 1, dog mom to 1. But then there are others where I am that person for many: prosthetist-orthotist to many, coworker to many, neighbor to many, chapter captain to many.

And all these relationships require my time and energy. And some of these relationships take up a disproportionate amount of my time and energy, to the detriment of other relationships. And that's not fair.

In the end, I realized that I had an Everclear song stuck in my head. "You always try to be...everything to everyone."

Not any more.

Not my usual peppy blog update, and 2 days late for "new blog Tuesday", but a stomach bug tore through our household earlier this week which gave me further confirmation of putting my own health before others, in order to take care of others.

Take care of yourselves!

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